I happened to be conversing with a friend recently over some fantastic craft beer. Shortly into the discourse, he mentioned to me, “Rebecca – you’re a really great listener.” What a pleasant confirmation of yet another way that Toastmasters has positively affected my life. I never used to be as engaged in the role of a listener. I was one of those people who used to sit rather impatiently, seeming to pay attention to the other person, but mainly anticipating my turn to shoot my mouth off. When you mindfully and actively take a role in the other person and their words, they become all the more richer and more interesting. It becomes easier to pick up on subtleties of language – nuances, hidden meanings, and quiet humour. Granted, there is occasion that I am intently paying attention because I am picking up imperfections in speech, and I fully admit to quietly counting “ums”, “ahs”, and other filler words in conversations, but I usually try to be quiet about such evaluations – unless the other person wants to know!